But positive-self-encouragement doesn't solve my problem of how to deal with other people telling me what to do!

As you practice positively-encouraging-yourself, you will notice yourself becoming noticeably less and less reliant on the need to receive the approval of others. In the mean time, do your best to ignore their opinions.

You can also keep asking yourself (and answering) the question "What do I prefer instead?" This will help turn your attention back towards yourself and away from the strong opinions of other people, which should give you some temporary relief from any uncomfortable situations.

The beautiful things you will get inside your positive-self-encouragement kit